Positive Grief : Death, Loss & Grief

Resources (regularly being added to) to help deal with death, loss and grief to help yourself or help others experiencing it. The full 100 mins video of Positive Grief talk shared at Shishukunj Bethak on 28th September 2021 is here. Shorter segments are being created to help share bite sized information. There are plans for a HLH Positive Grief Support Group.

““I thought it was such a very comprehensive session”
“I like stories and you shared with such genuine emotion it was very moving”
“A very thought provoking session”

“It was good to hear about the science behind the emotions etc. That helped put things into perspective. I loved the grief diagram in the jars. Again, another excellent visual. The third was the ‘dash poem’.
But, above all, for me altogether it made sense (even though it was long) and I am grateful to have had the opportunity to listen to it. So, truly thank you for your time and effort in delivering this challenging topic.”
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— Attendees of Positive Grief Bethak Talk

Full Final Video

Bite Sized videos of the Full Talk

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Here are some of the resources shared in the talk, others will be added to this page so do visit regularly.

The GriefKind cards and other resources from Sue Ryder https://www.sueryder.org/grief-kind-a-sue-ryder-campaign

The How to Die Well book from Royal London : https://www.royallondon.com/mutuality/how-to-die-well/

The 30 Day HLH Gratitude & Journal Habit Immersion Training Course : https://www.happylifehabits.co.uk/habit-immersion

From Dr Lois Tonkin. https://whatsyourgrief.com/growing-around-grief/

''Death is the great unknown. how death is something that the mind cannot grasp, and it can be known only by knowing life in its full depth and dimension''.

Death is a very fundamental question. Actually, death is closer to us than the statistics we read about it. Each moment, death is happening in us at the organ and cellular levels. This is how, with just one look at your insides, your doctor knows how old you are. In fact, death began in us even before we were born. Only if you are ignorant and unaware does it seem like death will come to you someday later. If you are aware, you will see both life and death are happening every moment. If you as much as breathe a little more consciously, you will notice that with every inhalation there is life, with every exhalation there is death.

Upon birth, the first thing that a child does is to inhale, to take in a gasp of air. And the last thing that you will do in your life is an exhalation. You exhale now, and if you do not take the next inhalation, you will be dead. If you do not get this, just do an exhalation, hold your nose and do not do the next inhalation. Within a few moments, every cell in your body will start screaming for life. Life and death are happening all the time. They exist together, inseparably, in the same breath. This relationship goes even beyond the breath. Breath is only a supporting actor. The real process is of the life energy, or prana, that controls physical existence. With certain mastery over prana, one can exist beyond breath for substantial amounts of time. Breath is a bit more immediate in its requirement, but in the same category as food and water.

Death is such a fundamental aspect, because if one small thing happens, you can be gone tomorrow morning. Why tomorrow morning? One small thing now and you could be off the next moment. If you were like any other creature, maybe you would be unable to think about all this, but once one is endowed with human intelligence, how can you just ignore such a significant aspect of your life? How can you avoid it and live on as if you are going to be here forever? How is it that after living here for millions of years of life, human beings still do not know a damn thing about death? Well, they know nothing about life either. We know all the trappings about life, but what do you know about life as such?

Fundamentally, this situation has come about because you have lost perspective as to who you are in this Universe. If this Solar System, in which we are, evaporates tomorrow morning, no one will even notice it in this Cosmos. It is that small, just a speck. In this speck of a Solar System, Planet Earth is a micro speck. In that micro speck, the city you live in is a super-micro speck. In that, you are a big man. This is a serious problem. When you have completely lost perspective as to who you are, how do you think you will grasp anything about the nature of life or death?

Sadhguru

Some very useful videos